DU BOIS, Charity
- Born: 4 Jun 1804, Catskill, NY
- Christened: 1805, East Greenbush, Rensselaer Co., NY 1
- Marriage: PORTER, Medad Junior on 9 Feb 1826
- Died: 12 Sep 1877, Chittenango, Madison, NY at age 73
- Buried: Chittenango, Madison, NY
4 June 1804 born, baptised January 1805 (No Sponsors Recorded) Parents: Jonathan and Elizabeth Ham (Vital Records of the East Greenbush Reformed Church, East Greenbush, Rensselaer County, NY (Arthur C.M.Kelly, Kinship Rhinebeck, New York, 1994)
Birth and baptism date conform to the files of the DuBois Family Association.
In a fashion similar to that of her husband, a biography of Charity was prepared by her granddaughters which indicate that she was born in Catskill:
"Charity Bubois was born June 4, 1804, the second child of Jonathan and Elizabeth Ham Dubois, in Catskill, a town on the west bank of the Hudson River, about halfway between Kingston and Albany.
There were three in the family, the parents and the eldest child, Margaret, born in 1802, when they went from Rensselaer county to live in Catskill, a hundred miles away. It was then rather pioneer country. There was a serious drought and the mother, Elizabeth Ham Dubois, found it so lonely and primitive that she wept continuously from homesickness; so she supposedly 'marked' Charity, at that time 'on the way.' That, in the estimation of her daughers, accounted for the fact that their mother was a very frequent weeper. Asked one time by her daughter Harriet, 'Mother, do you know that not a day goes by without your crying over something?', she replied, 'Why, child, is it as bad as that?'
Charity's baptism took place on Jan. 1, 1805, the clergyman being Rev. John Bassett. The baptism occurred in the Dutch Reformed Church at East Greenbush (on the Hudson, east side, ten miles south of Albany). The family lived at Schodack, a village adjoining East Greenbush to the southeast.
It was told of Charity as a young woman that she was 'the prettiest girl in the village' and that the college boys waited around to see her pass when she went out on her errands."
There is speculation at this point in the biography that that may have been Union College in Schnectady.
The biography goes on to describe her as one of a shy indispostion, an excellent cook and housekeeper who taught her daughers all the feminine arts of the day. She was thrifty to the point of being teased about it by her husband. She died at her home. With her were her daughter Elizabeth Porter and her daughter Harriet Mott, who had come from Wisconsin with two of her children, Florence and Mayhew.
A biography of Charity was written by her granddaughters which conform to the extant records of Charity, but records never give any indicaton of the person. She was evidently a very pretty young woman, for the "college boys waited around to see her pass when she went out on her errands."
The biography also indicates that she was a shy woman: "When her daughter Harriet in her later years was asked how she came to be such a good conversationalist, she replied, 'Mother was too shy to talk to guests, so it fell to me very often to entertain them.' In contrast to her elder sister Margaret who could cook a fine meal and at the same time take active part in conversation, Charity needed to be by herself when she prepared a meal."
Thrift was also a strong trait: "...husband Medad used to tease her, saying that after she had died of starvation there would always be a penny to be found in the house, laid aside for a rainy day."
The biography also has a curious entry: "(she)...was puzzled and concerned always about the doctrine of predestination."
When Charity died at her home in Chittenango she was attended by her daughter Elizabeth who lived with her as well as her other daughter, Harriet Mott who had come from Wisconsin with her 5 year old daughter Florence and 3 year old son Wesley Mayhew. 2
Charity married Medad PORTER Junior, son of Medad PORTER Senior and Mary DAVIS "Polly", on 9 Feb 1826. (Medad PORTER Junior was born on 5 Jan 1802 in Waterford, Rensselaer Co., NY, died on 12 Sep 1863 in Chittenango, Madison, NY and was buried in Chittenango, Madison, NY.)